I was watching this current affairs show, which was discussing about infidelity and the increase in divorce rates yearly.
In the programme they actually interviewed a 'third-party' who was involved with a married man for twenty years, and another man who cheated on his wife, who forgave him ultimately.
Makes me really wonder.
What exactly is the cause of divorce?
Infidelity? Incompatibility? Commitment-phobia?
No, it's not that I'm planning to get married soon. But I will, one day.
What is marriage?
A piece of certificate? A responsibility? A commitment? A lifelong promise? A vow?
To me, marriage consists of all of the above.
To be on the practical side, Marriage is about the certificate; because if he decides to cheat on me, at least I'd be compensated with half of his properties. Which would be important if I was just a helpless housewife with 4 kids.
It's a responsibility and a commitment I have to hold on to for the rest of my life. To fulfil my roles of a wife, spouse, a lover.
It's a lifelong promise, a vow, to try very hard to keep the love alive and flaming. It's a promise to be in love permanently, exclusively.
I was asking Mickey
'Did you at any point of time, when involved in a relationship, thought about another girl,find another girl attractive and potentially gf material? Did you ever wonder that this other girl could very well be your next gf?'
And he said no, never, not at all.
I didn't quite believe my ears.
I said, 'WHAT?! YOU'RE A LIAR! Ok, either you're lying, or you're really that good & I just found myself a treasure chest, OR, I'm hearing things. I think it's the latter. '
Honestly, very honestly, I am guilty of harbouring such thoughts.
I will not reveal at which rship, or when, but yes, I did.
A couple of times too.
I mean, I always thought it's in our mindsets and attitude to always look to the other side of the grass and wonder if it really was greener.
I will pay particularly more attention to a certain guy(even though I am attached then) and well, wonder what kind of bf he would make.
Altho I'll have the occasional thought and envision, I will not really make it happen.
But if that particular guy actually well, goes after me, I'll have to say, I'm gonna be tempted.
It depends too, whether I'm gonna give in to my temptation.
It depends if my current rship is stable or rocky. It depends on our commitment level. It depends on my attitude towards infidelity. It depends on my tolerance level.
I did, once.
Yeah, and so that everyone won't think I'm a bitch to cheat on her bf, let me clarify that the rship then was alr extremely rocky and I was starting to see that the then bf was quite mentally unstable.
Tsk tsk, the endless issues in life to keep us busy.
